Thursday, April 26, 2018

52 Ancestors Week #17

Cemetery

Prairie City Cemetery, McDonough County, Illinois

On my most recent research trip to Illinois, I eagerly looked forward to visiting the Prairie City Cemetery where my great-grandmother, the elusive Mattie Laughry Hays, lies buried. On my previous visit two years earlier, I hadn't had the time to stop there. Also, I didn't have enough information about the exact location of Mattie's grave, and I didn't know what other family members could be found in that cemetery. This time I knew exactly where to go and what other gravestones to look for. The handy website findagrave.com had most helpfully delivered the information that Mattie's mother, Nancy Baird Laughry, was buried right next to her daughter. From family papers I had recently uncovered, I knew the married names of Mattie's two sisters as well as the approximate location of their graves. Mattie's older brother William rested in an unspecified plot in the cemetery.  

As prepared as I was for grave hunting, I had not anticipated how difficult it would be to find the cemetery itself. I figured that in the tiny town of Prairie City, I could just drive around until I came upon the cemetery or until I found someone to tell me where it was. But Prairie City was a ghost town. Just ranch house after ranch house with a few trailers here and there. I didn't see a single soul. Eventually, I resorted to knocking on somebody's door. I picked a house with a car parked in the driveway. A friendly woman came to the door, gave me good directions, and I was on my way.

The town of Prairie City may have been abandoned, but the cemetery itself looked well-maintained, recently groomed. Imagine that—a place where the graveyard is more vibrant than its town!

I had the place to myself. It was a gorgeous blue-sky day and I walked the rows of gravestones with a sense of peaceful anticipation. With my cemetery map, I found my way to Lot 22 and there were my great-grandmother and her mother Nancy—right where findagrave had told me they would be! 

"Mattie N. Laughry - Oct. 30, 1840-May 12, 1881"



"Nancy- Wife of Benj Laughry - Died March 1, 1861 - Aged 50y 6m 18d"

Again with the aid of my map, I located the Laughry sisters nearby. They were buried with their respective husbands, children, and stepchildren. I never did find William Baird Laughry, though. Other soldiers who had died in the Civil War had those military medallions supported by little stakes which were stuck in the ground beside the gravestones. I sought out every such medallioned stake but never found his. Later, at the local historical society, I learned the reason. William was indeed buried there in the Prairie City Cemetery, but he lay in an unmarked grave. Why? Why did he not merit such a stake or memorial stone?


Back to my great-grandmother. Mattie had been put to rest there in Prairie City, but that was not where she had died. Just a few years before her death, she and her husband Charles had left Illinois with their three children and moved to Blanchard, Iowa. Blanchard, a new town that her husband had helped to incorporate, was in the proverbial middle of nowhere, sitting practically on the line that divided Iowa from Missouri. She must have missed her home and her sisters. Why did she die at the age of forty-one so far from home?  Did she die of loneliness? Had she always been sickly? Did she die in childbirth?

I doubt very much that she would have chosen to die in Blanchard. Just as I doubt that her brother William would have chosen to die of typhoid fever in a military camp in Little Rock, Arkansas. I know so little of these Laughrys and their siblings. In fact, I know more about their deaths and their burials than I do about their lives and how they lived them.




Sunday, April 1, 2018

52 Ancestors Week #13

The Old Homestead


The Woonsocket Farm, c. 1890

What has always struck me about this photo is how separated all the family members are from each other. Great distances between each person and the next. Nobody touching—or even looking at—another. No interaction. Each person sealed off in his or her own private sphere. This picture is not about family relationships. This picture is about the real estate. An inventory of possessions. Look! We have a fine house. We have two barns. We have horses and a buggy and a bicycle.

Nobody is looking any too happy about being photographed. Not my father's father Thaddeus, slouching on the porch—perhaps feeling sulky because he doesn't get a horse to sit on or a bicycle to hold. Not Thad's stepmother Julia, standing as far from him as she can and still be on the porch. She too is empty-handed and has nothing to do. Not Thad's father Charles who looks worn out from hitching the horse up to the buggy—and probably from organizing the whole photo shoot. Not the stoop-shouldered woman sitting on the tired-looking horse. The only character whose posture and facial expression suggest that he might be relaxed and enjoying himself is Thad's younger brother Syd. He's got the fun prop—the bicycle.

Now, about that woman on the horse. In the little note my mother attached to the photo, she has identified the horse as Beauty and the horse-sitter as Aunt Franc, my dad's aunt. (It would have made sense: My great-grandfather, his second wife, and his three children all together in a family portrait.)



I can see how she might have made that assumption. But with the technology available in the 1960s or 70s, Mom did not have the ability to zoom in on the photo. If she had, she would have seen that the person in the saddle was not a slip of a girl, ten years younger than her pouty brother, but a woman rather advanced in years. It is my belief that this is my great-grandfather's older sister, Sarah Hays Dixon. She appeared in the South Dakota Territorial Census of 1855, as a widow and a member of the Charles Hays household. 

So where is Frances? Why is she not in this picture? I am guessing she was away at school. She left South Dakota somewhere around 1890 to attend Blairsville Women's College in the Pennsylvania town where her mother, Mattie Laughry, had grown up. When she graduated, she became a Latin teacher in Joplin, Missouri. I have searched for evidence of her whereabouts, but all I have is a big blank between the 1885 South Dakota Territorial Census and a 1909 Joplin City Directory.

My father told the story of a time when Aunt Franc took him up to Woonsocket for a visit to his grandfather's farm but wasn't able to bring him home after the visit. She put him on the train in Woonsocket and his mother picked him up at the train station in a town not far from their home in Armstrong, Iowa. My ten-year-old dad had ridden the 250 miles on the train by himself!

Decades later, after both Aunt Franc and Uncle Syd died, my father and his two sisters inherited the old homestead. I have a letter to him from his attorney outlining what they needed to do to complete the sale of the property. In the end, the 160-acre farm was sold for $12,000. 

So what is left of the old homestead is a photo, a story, and this deed.










Tuesday, March 20, 2018

52 Ancestors Week 10 prompt: Strong Woman



A Strong Woman







Barbro Helgesdatter Aasli Gaarder must have been a strong woman. At least I hope she was. But when I see the haunted look on her face in the only photo I have of her, I have to wonder.

I can only guess at how she might have responded to the difficult events in her life. There are no letters between Barbro and friends or family members, no diary. All I have to go on are the antiseptic census records, dates of births and deaths, accounts of her husband's achievements, and her obituary. 

Barbro was a month shy of seventeen years when she gave birth to her first child, and she continued to bear another child about every other year until she had produced thirteen. That alone should qualify her as a strong woman.

And then consider that in 1849 she and her husband Syver Guttormsen Gaarder left their farm and all that made up their life in the Valdres valley of Norway to make a new home in Wisconsin. In the port of Drammen, they boarded the sailing ship Benedicte with their brood, which at the time numbered ten. The youngest was four months old when they sailed. They spent the next ten weeks at sea. When they arrived in the New York harbor they still had to make their way to the Erie Canal, to Milwaukee, and from there to the parsonage in Rock County where they were expected. The pastor there offered temporary shelter for immigrating Norwegians until they could find land on which to settle.

Barbro's husband left her at the parsonage with the ten children in order to scout out land in nearby Green County. Granted, her oldest children were in their twenties, and she had a twenty-three-year-old daughter-in-law, so presumably she had helpbut still! 

Syver did indeed find land in Green County and bought 160 acres in the township of Albany. There was already a log house in place and that is where, with an addition built onto it, the family of thirteen lived. When a few more Norwegian families came along to settle in Albany, the Gaarder's log home also became the meeting place for church and school. I picture Barbro managing not just a household, but a community center! To have no privacy, to be responsible for accommodating the whole community! To me that sounds like quite a bit of responsibility. But of course I have no way of knowing how Barbro felt about all of this. Perhaps, rather than being burdened, she enjoyed the company of all those people. Perhaps they provided a lot of support. 

Once settled in Albany, Barbro continued to have babies. But just weeks after baby Ellef came along in February of 1851, her daughter Live died at the age of eighteen. How did Barbro bear it? Another baby, Sever, arrived in 1853. Things were quiet until 1855 when Guttorm, her first-born, fell from the top of a haystack, landed on the prongs of a pitchfork piercing his intestines. He died within a couple of days. About ten months later, on her own birthday, Barbro gave birth to her final child, Julia Gunhild. 

Barbro was forty-six, had given birth to thirteen children, had seen two die, and still had another forty years or so to live. To the best of my knowledge, her next big loss was the death of her husband in 1881. Syver was about ten years her senior and died when Barbro was seventy-one. She had  sixteen more years to live. Hopefully she was able to enjoy her prodigious family for a good long time before she had the stroke that immobilized her for the last three years of her life. To quote from her obituary,
Through her whole life, she was a faithful and devoted member of her church, and until sickness deprived her of her power of speech, she frankly confessed her faith in the atoning sacrifice of her Savior.

But then, you know how obituaries are: the subjects always face life bravely, never lose their faith, always die with equanimity. How much can one believe in a characterization in an obituary?

As I say, I can only hope that my great-great-grandmother Barbro was strong.


Melissa Hays →Thad Hays  →Hannah Gaarder  →Helge Gaarder  →Barbro Helgesdatter Gaarder


















Sunday, March 11, 2018

52 Ancestors Week 9: Where There's a Will


Where There's a Will...


Sister Susan with James Hays's Will

In a card catalog drawer in the Bellefonte Historical Museum, I found a card with my third great-grandfather's name on it: James Hays. My sister Susan and I had traveled to Pennsylvania in search of information about any Hays ancestor, and here was a card promising information regarding our Revolutionary War ancestor who settled here in Centre County. James had lived, raised his family, and died in the small town of Beech Creek near Bellefonte. The card indicated there was a will to be had.

I took the card over to the librarian, expecting her to tell me that to see the will I would need to go over to the county courthouse. I was not looking forward to walking uphill in the heat to get to the courthouse, so I was relieved to learn that the will resided right there in the building we were in. Down in the basement. She said she'd go downstairs to retrieve it. That is, if she could get to it. They were doing some remodeling down there, so the box with my will just might be in an inaccessible part of the basement. As she made her descent, my sister Susan, a former historical society archivist herself, made some dire comments on the unsuitability of basements as storage spaces. I waited apprehensively, fearing that the librarian would return empty-handed or bearing a disintegrating, moldy, unreadable will. But when she came back upstairs she presented us with a lily-white packet, measuring about 4x7 inches, bound by a white ribbon tied in a bow.


Susan and I began to unpack the envelope which contained not just a will, but every document that had anything to do with the administration of the will: an inventory of all of my ancestor's possessions, a document naming the executor and witnesses of the will, and many tiny scraps of paper that I believed to be receipts signed by the various beneficiaries, stating what had been distributed to them.

I loved the inventory—One Heifer...One Stear...Two Horses with their Geers...Small Speckled D° (I have no idea!)...Harrow pins, etc. Also listed was income from the sale of land in nearby Lycoming County. All told, eleven farm items, nine household items, and two bonds were listed. Total value? $2190.16.

First page of inventory

The next thing I loved about the will was that a witness and executor of it was another third great-grandfather of mine! Gideon Smith and James Hays were each father-in-law to the other's child. Gideon's daughter Susannah Sally married James's son Samuel. Although James was a good twelve years older than Gideon, they were good friends. In designating Gideon an executor of his will, James refers to him as a Trusty friend.

Signature of Gideon Smith
When it came to the unfolding of the tiny scrap receipts, I began to get nervous that we'd never get them refolded and back in the right order. It did occur to me that maybe I didn't need to worry. Was there anyone else in the world who would ever care, who would be wanting to look at this will packet again? (Come to think of it, was there ever anyone before me who had opened this envelope? Or was the first time since my ancestor's death that his will and all its accompanying documents had ever seen the light of day?) I decided that, in order to cause the least disruption possible, I would take a photo of one receipt--with  Susan holding down the corners to keep it flat--just to have as an example. The one I photographed was a receipt signed by one of Gideon's sons!



Finally I came to the will itself. I checked the exact date and learned that James had made out his will a few weeks before his death. The language took me back to the world of 1817: Knowing that it is apointed for all Men once to die I so make and publish this my Last will and Testament.

The first beneficiary, of course, was his wife Sarah Brown Hays, my third great-grandmother. The provisions he made for his helpmeet of fifty-eight years I found quite touching.To Sarah, James bequeathed the following: two bonds of fifty pounds each, one bed and beding, one cow (her choice of the flock,) six sheep, a set of drawers, one-third of the kitchen furniture, one-fourth of the chairs, and the fire irons. (Evidently all of the fire irons as no others were designated for other heirs.) Sarah was also guaranteed the use of the room where I now ly. I pictured the scribe sitting next to the bed of the dying James Hays, writing down all his wishes. Was it an attorney? Would it have to have been an attorney or could anybody have recorded what James dictated as long as Gideon and the neighbor, William Feron, were there to witness it? (There's so much I don't know about wills!)

James further orders that their son, my second great-grandfather Samuel, find her a horse to ride when she chuses. Later on in the will he specifies that she and their one unmarried daughter will stay in the house as long as it suits them and that Samuel, again, will see that they live in as comfortable acomodations as they have heretofore had.

Poor Samuel, the youngest of the family, in charge of everything. Only twenty-five years old at the time of his father's death, he is suddenly responsible for sorting out everything—the running of the farm and seeing that the needs of his mother and his maiden sister are met. Why doesn't his brother John have to do any of the heavy lifting? After all, he is the older son and doesn't live that far away. But maybe Samuel is the responsible one, the one who had stayed on the scene to farm alongside his father, the one who knows what's what. I'm sure James had his reasons.

One final gem I found in the will was the following: I likewise have a Claim of Land in the State of Kaintuckey if it is Recovered it is my will that it be Equally Divided amongst my Sons and Daughters


I had read in other sources that Lieutenant James Hays had received three tracts of land as payment for his military service in both the French and Indian War and the American Revolution. One was the Beech Creek property, the second was also in Pennsylvania. But I had never been able to determine the location of the third claim and had always been curious about why he had never followed up on it. Now I'm wondering if, in that packet in the Bellefonte basement, there might be an overlooked scrap of paper holding that information. Perhaps the executors of James's will had attempted to track down the Kaintuckey claim and had reported their success or failure in finding it. (As I say, I know very little about how these things work. Maybe a Wills 101 course should be next in my genealogy self-education.)

James Hays died on February 14, his wife's birthday, in 1817. He was seventy-six years old. 

Wednesday, February 21, 2018

52 Ancestors—Week 8 Prompt: Heirloom




The Chair


In the living room of our Denver home, a certain high-backed chair held pride of place between the fireplace and the stairway to the upper level. The woodwork of it scrolled and highly polished, the seat and backrest needle-pointed in Victorian fashion, it was a sight to behold. The backrest of the chair featured a portrait of a high-class lady with piled up hair.




But the great selling point of the chair was the back of the back, which I clearly remember as being sleek, silky velvet—a muted green. My sister Sally and I took great delight in drawing on the plush back with pointed finger, laying down the nap as we traced words or pictures, then miraculously erasing them by brushing over them in the opposite direction. Like ironing without the heat. We sometimes left each other messages on the back of that chair. And they were not nasty, I-hate-you messages. Unlike most of our interactions, this message-leaving activity was one in which we cooperated and in which we both found pleasure. Part of the fun was in seeing how long it took the other to find the hidden communication, because we certainly didn't check every day.

To be truthful, this chair was a bit of a monstrosity. No...that's too strong—an oddity, let's say. In my memory it was enormous, not all that comfortable, and somewhat out of place in the otherwise up-to-date furnishings of our living room. But we loved it—this white elephant/heirloom of ours.

The chair had come to us from Aunt Peg after she died. In fact, it was Aunt Peg's death which had made it possible for Mom and Dad to purchase this new house where the high-back chair was ceremoniously installed. The chair probably wouldn't have been Aunt Peg's choice either, but it was a family heirloom having been needle-pointed by Aunt Frank. (We all referred to her as Aunt Frank, but really she was the aunt of  Daddy and Aunt Peg.)

So, Aunt Peg died and there was Aunt Frank's chair and somebody had to have it. You can't just get rid of a chair that was needle-pointed by your ancestor. And so it resided at our family home until 1982, when Mom and Dad decided to leave Denver for the warmer environment of Chapel Hill—without the chair.

Sally had a three-story house, so her top floor was the obvious new home for it. The chair lived there a good twenty years until Sally moved into a Manhattan apartment, and some things had to go. You guessed it: the chair was one of them. Susan was already trying to downsize, and I was in a house so small that most of the living room was already taken up by my piano. The chair was sacrificed. Later, when I became a hoarder of all things family-related, I was shocked that I could have allowed such a thing to happen. How could I have let practicality trump tradition? I mourned the chair.

But wait!  It turns out that for fifteen years or so, the chair has been sitting, covered by a bedsheet, in Susan’s spare bedroom! It was when I was helping her clear out her house to put it on the market that we uncovered the heirloom. I rejoiced. How could I possibly have thought that we had given up our needle-pointed heirloom? As it must have happened, on that fateful day fifteen years ago, when we were about to consign the chair to the Salvation Army pile, Susan relented at the last moment. She took custody of the chair and has been housing it ever since. I had simply forgotten.

In my memory the chair was of hulking dimensions. In reality, it was small enough to be stowed in my Subaru Impreza hatchback to be hauled home to Vermont. Now, in my newer, somewhat larger house, it sits in the back room crowded in with the piano. I am waiting for the day that I can pass it off to Abe and his sweetie when they become homeowners and can provide a good setting for the needle-pointed wonder. Maybe they will leave messages for each other on its velvety back.



Thursday, February 15, 2018

Valentine


When you first looked at this picture, did you think, "Huh? WAS? Was what?" Well, that was my thought too. Then I looked at the back of the photo and learned that W.A.S. was a social club at the Western Illinois Normal School where my grandmother Ellen and Arthur, her husband-to-be, were students.

Also on the back of the photograph was the inscription "February 14, 1906." Evidently the club was celebrating Valentine's Day—which also happened to be my grandmother's nineteenth birthday! 

Ellen is on the far left in the middle row. It is just possible that the young man in front of her is Arthur. He has the same jug-ears that I've seen in other pictures of my grandfather. But this kid hardly looks like he is twenty-seven, which is the age he would have been when Ellen was nineteen. I wish I knew how to use a facial recognition tool and where to get one.

I have so many questions about this little tableau: Is that Arthur? What does W.A.S. stand for? And what's up with the pictures pinned to some of the men's jackets? Pictures of themselves as babies perhaps? So many questions and nobody to ask.

Monday, February 12, 2018



Favorite Name





Keziah Bellomy was the older sister of my great-grandmother Lucinda Bellomy Odenweller. I always suspected that Keziah was a biblical name, and Wikipedia told me I had been right. Biblical Keziah, one of Job's three daughters, came to symbolize "female equality" because she received an inheritance from her fathernot the usual order of things at the time.

I don't know that my Keziah inherited much financially when her father, an Illinois farmer, died in 1876. But, from the little I know of her life as a single woman of strong character and independence, I can't help but think that she lived up to her name.


Keziah was twenty-six and my great-grandmother twenty-one when they became surrogate mothers to their baby nephew Franklin. His mother had died and his father, their brother James, did not feel inclined to care for his four children on his own. I don't know where the baby's older siblings ended up, but Frank was lucky to land with his aunts. 


Keziah and Lucinda, both teachers, lived in their father Thomas's household. Their own mother had recently died, so caring for this motherless child must have been both a challenge and a balm.  When little Frank was nine years old, Lucinda married and took him with her. He continued to live with my great-grandparents until he married at the age of twenty-three.

Thomas died shortly before Lucinda's marriage in 1876, so I suppose the sisters sold the farm. Keziah moved in with her brother Josiah and his family, according to the 1880 US Census.


Then Keziah left her Illinois home and struck out on her own. She went out west, and lived an independent lifemostly as a school teacher and, later on, as a nurse. According to a US Land Office Record, on December 31, 1890 she bought a 160-acre parcel in Greeley, Kansas. So she must have been a farmer as well! 


Her obituary tells that she returned to Illinois for the last four years of her life, spending time with family members. This meant nephews and nieces (and possibly some cousins) because, at seventy-two, she had outlived all but one siblingthe brother who had left home to settle in New Mexico.


When Keziah reached the end of her adventurous (but perhaps lonely) life at the age of seventy-two, she was staying with her nephew Harry. It was in the home of Harry's father Josiah that Keziah had lived in the 1880s before her move to Kansas. Perhaps she and Harry had formed a special relationship during that period. I like to think of her passing her final days in the presence of a loving nephew.